Hi, ellas! Nice to meet you! I have read your post..and I want you to know that God cares about you, so do I. I have been in your shoes. I have faced what you are going through right now and I want you to know there is "hope". People that have not been through what you have don't understand the 'Emotional Stress" that you are going through. I understand the 'fear' of losing your life and belongings due to the 'abuse' that you are going through. No matter 'What you do' or 'How good you do it', it's not good enough. I want you to know that 'You' are Not responsible for 'How' that other person "Thinks" or "Feels" for their "Actions" are their "Own". You "Alone" are Not going to "Change" that person. The Abuser/Victor, is usually an "Insecure" person, that may have come from a "Dysfunctional Family". This person will require "Counseling" for "Anger Management" and to get treatment of learning positive ways to express frustration or anger "Without" inflicting harm to another person. If you want the 'abuse' to 'stop' and to have a 'normal' more meaningful relationship, then "You" are going to have to "Leave" away from the person and the 'situation'. There are "Abuse Shelters for Women" that will provide you safe shelter and transportation. These shelters provide "temporary" housing, which will give you a chance to become Independant and to recieve counseling. Here are some places to help you: "Family Counseling & Shelter" (734)241-0180. 14930 Laplaisance Rd. #106, Monroe. (www.fcssmc.org).
(www.welfareinfo.org/michigan/southfield-shelters)
Agape House 19201 Birchridge St., Southfield, MI. (248)799-2446.
You can still work and recieve Government help to get your 'own' place, to get you on your feet. The 'only' way your relationship is going to work is if the Abuser/Victor realizes "that they" have a problem...and needs help. They will "promise" you the earth, moon and sky in attempt to get you to stay there and continue taking the 'abuse'. (You deserve better than that!) We are resurrected people who don't have to be slaves to sin any longer (Romans 6:6-7). Jesus died to rid us of sin's power as well as to rid us of sin's penalty. The gospel has the power to set us free. But if we are going to go to people and announce the good news that they can be set free from sin's power in Christ, we had better be living in the freedom the gospel purchased for us.~ Father God doesn't want us to be abused-mentally or physically. He wants for us to have the very best that life has to offer us. Pray to Father God, He will rescue You, wipe away your tears and will Protect You..if You 'Call' upon Him. We have to Trust Father God and stop relying on ourselves. We cannot make the 'right' decisions for our own lives we must have His guidance. When he leads we must follow. We must obey Him and do as He says in order for us to have blessings, prosperity and peace in our lives. We make 'mistakes', He doesn't for God is 'Perfect' and will never fail us. Ask Father God to come into your life, to 'forgive' you of your sins, to bless you, protect you and to guide you. Just remember "When we are down to nothing....God is up to something!" He already has wonderful blessings to shower upon you! The reason He is unable to give us these blessings is due to our own decisions. See God "doesn't force" us to worship Him or to follow his lead in our lives. He lets it be of our own 'choice' to do so, (freewill). We can be of the 'world' or live our lives as a "Christian" in a Godly way, but we cannot live of 'both' we must chose one or the other. I will keep you in my thoughts, heart and prayers. Please keep in touch and let me know how you are doing. God Bless You.~ Pastor MadonnaButterfly~